Hey! I am so excited that finally we get to do this after I my promise last time. This is it, today we get to sample views shared by some of the young people who commented on this subject! A couple of weeks ago we posted a question on the sukumaRIZE youth Expressions facebook group asking them some ‘open’ questions like the following, ‘Is marriage overrated? Why are young people failing in marriage? Why do we get married anyways? The response we got was ok, some of them really engaged the discussion, and some did not. But those that did share their thoughts made an impressions. So I thought, why not post some of their comments here and lets all see how open, clean, informed and God oriented a response they gave us.
Read and find out what these young guns had to say, here goes………………..
‘….it’s not marriage that is overrated but sex is overrated, I don’t know in what way but it is, especially for those that are not married. Maybe not all of us desire to be married and be committed to one partner but it’s one thing I feel I would definitely call a blessing. Maybe if love is hot in both the partners and not one sided! I definitely desire to get married one day but my fear is me and my so called partner, will we look things and understand them the same way or we will call it a journey halfway???’
‘……an element we mostly neglect is God. That which the Lord has brought together, no man can separate! so people allow themselves to be led by the lust, emotions n marry coz she/he is beautiful/handsome, perfect body features blah,blah,blah n neglect the humanity part of that individual, when all that is stripped away, the real person emerges like a worm from its cocoon..and it’s that which people run away from..We always want what seems appealing to the eye n not look into facts and ask God…….’
‘Marriage is not overrated. It is just not highly anticipated like it used to be obviously because of the “blessings” of marriage being discovered out of marriage.’
‘The problem is with Us, we are not marrying for the right reasons. There are so a lot of factors that can lead you to marrying, yet they aren’t the ingredient for marriage. Lomunye wake watsi she married because she wanted to have sex ngalokusemtsetfweni, and someone else said, besekahanjelwe sikhatsi, all her friends were married, thus she married too.’
‘I believe in:
a) Finish your ambitions as a bachelor
b) Fall in love not because you fit together but because you can’t live without each other (Remember, Moses married a black woman)
c) Make it work and never give up.
‘Unfortunately, when it comes to matters of the heart we tend to shut God out yet it is God that brought the woman to the man in the garden (Genesis 2:21). It is on this conviction therefore that I believe the spiritual quality (not in comparison but in reality) of a potential lifelong partner is crucial.’
‘…..God’s kind of marriage, a guaranteed success, is not a wedding only but a union according to God’s set standards. These are not just rules or laws but a way of life, a truth of heart and life lived through faith in Jesus Christ.’
‘…..so people allow themselves to be led by the lust, emotions n marry coz she/he is beautiful/handsome, perfect body features blah,blah,blah n neglect the humanity part of that individual, when all that is stripped away, the real person emerges like a worm from its cocoon. And it’s that which people run away from. We always want what seems appealing to the eye n not look into facts and ask God will to be done.’
‘….a lot of factors do come into play. e.g.
a) did you seek God’s guidance through prayer before marrying?
b) Are you in love or are you compatible?
c) Do you relive your “first love” experience constantly as depicted by Jesus to the Ephesus church?
- And there are many other factors’
‘We go for people who have THE looks but lacks humanity. Who am I to judge??? I am not but that’s why marriages fails left right and centre. it’s time we remind ourselves where we really come from, who initiated all the beautiful things we lays our eyes on, it is God who knows who’s good for who and who’s not’
‘…..I still stand to say, what I also believe is your point, that yes a wedding can survive without God, but the marriage can never.’
‘………guess it’s not only young people who are failing but a majority of the populace. Personally, there’s one element people neglect after the wedding. It’s more like a marathon. Once you have turned almost all the corners, you still ask yourself, why I have to turn another one after all….. ?’
I really would like to salute all of y’all facebookers who submitted their comment. With this kind of mindsets and standards I see a generation that will bring back the sanctity and didgnity of God founded lifestyles even in marriage.
I’m out, stay blessed!
Note : For reasons of privacy, especially on the side of the commentators/contributors, we decided not to publish their identities.
